💫 Who’s Better Company Than You?
If you said, “Umm… I can’t think of anybody.” Then baby, you’re doing something right.
No one knows you like you know you.
No one loves you like you love you.
And if you don’t believe that yet—keep telling yourself until you do.
Solo dates are sacred. They help you discover what you love to do, eat, be around, and talk about.
(And yes, “talk about” can mean journaling in silence or with your spirit team, or sitting with your thoughts.)
✨ Set the Standard. For You, By You.
Show up for yourself.
Get dressed up for yourself.
Find that spot you’ve been dying to visit—and take yourself there.
You’ve got to set your standards high if anyone even thinks about taking you out.
So why not set the standard your own damn self?
Solo dates are therapeutic.
They’re a love letter to God for making you confident, free, and divinely protected.
Self-love is the highest form of love—because it flows straight from the Source.
🍽️ Solo Date Ideas That Hit Every Vibe
1. Eat (and eat well)
- Brunch? Go big or go light. You’re only paying for one, so get the drinky-drink too.
- Lunch? Grab it to-go and sit with God’s green earth. Journal. Paint. Breathe.
- Dinner? My fave. Get dressed up, spray that perfume, and order the appetizer, entrée, and dessert.
- Read a book. Or just vibe. You’ll thank yourself the moment you leave.
“Okay, Chipotle three times this week was personal—but we all have our spot!”
2. Go to a Museum
- Learn something new.
- Bring your camera.
- Put your playlist on and stroll like you own the place.
- People-watch. You might meet someone brilliant—or just enjoy your own brilliance.
3. Book a Staycation
- Get the hotel with breakfast.
- Put your phone on DND.
- Bring your robe, your lingerie, your favorite snacks.
- Order room service. Go to the pool. Watch a movie. Sleep in.
- Reset your mind. Reclaim your peace.
“And if you invite someone over—do ya thang. Just make sure they come in peace.”
4. Church → Brunch → Nature Walk
- Spend time with God.
- Hear the message meant for you.
- Reflect over breakfast.
- Then walk through a tunnel of trees and birdsong.
- This is a healing date. A date with the Lord.
- Do it alone first. Yahweh.
5. Do Something Active
- Dance class
- Skating
- Gym session
- Nature walk
- Rock climbing
- Anything that gets your heart racing
“That adrenaline rush looks so hot on you, girl. I love the self-confidence in being active outside on your own. wink”
“Solo dates are a celebration of self-love and independence.”
From Denny’s to Divine: How Solo Dates Changed My Life
I remember my first solo date—it was back in 2020, at Denny’s.
That place held memories. I used to go there with my loved ones because it was always a vibe: good food, good service, good price. Everything I loved.
My go-to? The Beyond Burger, dressed up just how I like it, with seasoned fries and a starter plate of nachos and garden salad. I loved it so much—but I didn’t have anyone to go with.
So I said, “Well damn… I’ve got my journal. I’ve got myself. I’ve got my own car, my own money… sounds like I got motion.”
And just like that, I took myself out.
I journaled. I ordered everything I wanted. I laughed. I vibed. I thanked myself afterward.
And in that moment, I realized: I love spending time with me.
Since then, I’ve made it a ritual. One of my two off-days is reserved for me—to do my girly things, to date myself, to show the kind of love little ol’ me would’ve dreamed of.
It changed my perspective on dating.
I’m no longer rushing to find compatibility—I’m building confidence, setting standards, and loving myself out loud.
🌸 Solo Dates Don’t Have to Be Scary
Even if anxiety tries to convince you otherwise.
I used to stay hidden, waiting for someone to pull me into the light.
And when they did, I realized something:
Most people are simply seeking connection, not necessarily depth.
They’re not always tuned into your energy,
but that doesn’t mean you’re invisible.
You are not a back-burner love.
You are radiant, worthy, and never truly alone.
Even when it feels like no one sees you, your spirit team does. God does. The moon does. Go do the things that stretch you, thrill you, scare you a little. Wear the outfit. Light the candle. Order the dessert. Take the photo. Be bold. Be creative. Be innovative. Be unmistakably you. And watch the blessings flow in—like perfume on warm skin, like sunlight through silk curtains, like a yes whispered from the divine.
Let’s chat in the comments get to know one another, I want you to share your own experiences in solo dates. If you need guidelines on what to talk about here are some questions:
- If you could dedicate one song to your solo self-love era, what would it be?
- What’s stopping you from booking that staycation or taking yourself out right now—and how can you shift that?
- What’s one thing you learned about yourself the last time you spent time alone?
- Which solo date idea are you claiming for yourself this week—and how will you make it sacred?
- Have you ever had a solo date that changed your perspective or healed something unexpected?
Here’s a challenge: answer as many questions as you can for the length of my dedicated self-love era song. Go!
Maybe the self-love you’re seeking is rooted in a deeper desire—to be loved by a partner. And that’s okay.
I’ve been there too, asking the hard questions, doing the shadow work, trying to untangle what’s mine and what’s longing.
During one of those soul-searching seasons, I found a blog post on Tiny Buddha that truly resonated. It helped me pause, reflect, and realign before rushing into love.
✨ Here are 5 questions to ask yourself before you start seeking love:
Read the full post on Tiny Buddha
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